From My Greatest Loss- Possibilities

One does not ever see themselves in a position to take on the world to ensure changes are made. Depending on the loss and given circumstances, the funeral is where closure and healing collide in some awkward embrace of their passing. The Welcome mat of death is not something to be crossed with anticipation; I know first-hand, having my daughter leave this world, on December 12, 2011. Yet when the time comes, where a person has to stand up for what is right, there is no doubt that any of you fighting in the memory for a loved one would chose to do the same.

This week has seen monumental changes come in the form of Final Approval to fix the deadly stretch of McKinley Road, where Shayla perished, in a car accident. Furthermore, a one time Bursary was established at Thompson Rivers University, where my daughter attended for three years, wanting to become a Social Worker. 

Changes to McKinley Landing are long overdue, as there have been three major accidents where Shayla died. Ultimately, her life tragically taken has resulted in transformation to the stretch of twisty, narrow roadway. Kelowna City Council voted unanimously in favour of repairs. The Final Approval was given to:

Option 7 – Realignment of Compound Curve:
The best option from an engineering and safety perspective is to remove the compound curve at the south end of the reservoir and construct a safer curve to current design standards. Minimum radius for a 40 km/h TAC design speed is 60m with 4% super-elevation. The rock fill could be obtained from the rock face to improve the width, drainage and reduce rock fall hazards. This improvement would provide a consistent alignment with good drainage and a safe clear zone on the outside of the curve. Concrete roadside barriers will also be added along the steep bank section for added safety.

This decision comes too late for my daughter and nothing will fill that immense void in my broken heart. In addition to the major road improvements, a permanent granite rock monument was installed at the crash site that has a photograph of Shayla, and her favourite quote in which she lived by: Be the Change you want to See in this World. On December 12, I will pay my respects to my “Concrete Angel,” who now has provided safety for others travelling on McKinley Road.

The Shayla Rae Dawn Driver Memorial Bursary that is established reflects on issues that were important to my rainbow angel. The specific criteria are as follows ~ $1000 awarded to student who demonstrates financial need, has been affected by mental health struggles (either themselves, family or friends), and shows a passion for social change. Preference to an Aboriginal student.

In Autumn of this year, a student from Thompson Rivers University will be granted a Bursary. On November 22, we will be able to meet the recipient, at an Awards Ceremony. The legacy of Shayla will continue to thrive and give hope for positive developments in the sector of Social Work.

As this upcoming Mother’s day approaches, I am anchored to these causes. They offer glimmers of hope in a world where I no longer have my own daughter, to celebrate a special occasion. This is the first Mother’s Day in 22 years that my babygirl and I will not hold onto one another, share in laughter and light, or simply just be together. Yet, it is because of a mother’s love for her child, the greatest gifts I have, I am giving to others. Shayla’s belief of Paying it Forward continues to shine in the brightest ways, for I was graced with my Rainbow Angel.